Random Emails to My Husband

There is nothing I love more than sending love notes to my hubby. I call them love notes but really they are just crazy ramblings in which to annoy and bother him at work. Now some might think that it is absurd how much I email my husband while at work BUT in my defense I am very ADHD and if i do not say something when I am in the "now" it goes POOF and is gone and mostly like will never remember; thus, the emails .... here are just some from today.


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Hi love,
welcome to work on Saturday the worst day EVER :)
I hope you have a fantastic day cause I LOVE you!
I think we should buy like 4 lobsters and OD on buttery lobster flesh tonight. YAY!

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Dearest P Murph,
Brandi and Paul are having a little shin-dig at their place to night. I would very much like us to attend because I need some socializing. Otherwise I might become an unscocialized, ill-behaved MeggyLou and start acting poorly in public and being crazy around the house and might even start biting. And you KNOW that would be bad because if I snap at a person they could lock me up and maybe even … {gulp} give me the eternal sleep :-o

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To whom it may concern,
I am in need of a payment method so I may go purchase preventative baby control (PBC). If a payment method is not received by 5:00pm today than the chance of a baby increases dramatically.
Thank you for your time.


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{This is not a stalling method in which to distract you from the fact that I have not yet posted promised wedding pictures nor the picture video my lovely photographer emailed to me LAST week .... definitely not.}

Tease Alert!

So I decided I would post a little preview of what is to come once I get my professional pictures.

So I'm sure you can tell I am extremely impatient but and pretty proud of how good I have been about this entire process. It helps that my photographer also showed me some pictures early ... and by early I mean the day after the wedding ... seriously BEST. PHOTOGRAPHER. EVER.

I have the HONOR and pleasure of working with David Mierlcarek who was like a kid in a candy shop when he came to check where the wedding would be held. I can't even tell you how amazing it is and energizing to have a photographer who is just as excited as you about shooting your wedding if not a little more. I may have had to say "no" to a couple of requests (actually just one). Tromping in a pig field when it had rained ALL week WITH the pigs in the field .... no sorry I will draw the line there and ONLY because 1) you would stink the rest of the night and 2) female pigs are extremely aggressive ... oh and the mud is so deep after that much rain we would have all sunk to our knees and i think everyone would have MURDER me.

Speaking of murder here is the sencond picture I received from David, to which I have to say ROCKS!Now if you are wondering what you are looking at I would take a good look in the background and you will see my husbands legs dangling from a tractor. David told us "Marriage isn't all roses". I would have to say I have never had more fun in my life shooting this! Patrick probably not so much but he was SUCH a good sport. The even lined the barrel with some bubble wrap we found in my mom's studio so he wouldn't get his suit all muddy because it was really nasty in there. Also that is mud on my arm not a cut and that was there my chance and just happened to look AWESOME for this shoot.

Next is the picture that made me cry at the airport for about 20 mins .... it's really hard to stop once you start going, people kept looking at me and probably thought someone had died lol quite the opposite. Take a look for yourself.I might be a little biased but I think this is the most beautiful wedding picture I have ever seen and cannot believe it is us. Don't ask me how they got it because there is no light behind us and it is about 10pm and pitch black. He actually had to keep at me about doing this one because I was so tired by this point but I gave in and was so glad I did ... way worth missing my favorite song on the dance floor for this.

Reason #486 why David was the BEST Photographer ever .... we got a package from him about a week or 2 ago and we thought it was our pictures already except it was pretty big. When we opened it we see a 3x2 canvas print of the above picture. A gift from our lovely photographer. Tears again. We now have it hanging above our bed and still can't believe how lucky we were to have such an amazing photographer that genuinely cared about not just our wedding but us as well.

Invitation Preparation!

When I was doing the invitations I had taken pictures fully tending to post about it... hey just cause it took me 4 months doesn't mean I didn't do what I planned to. It just takes me longer to do things sometimes ;-)

So since I ordered my Invitations from Etsy really all I had to do was address the envelopes, the RSVP post cards and put the guest names on the RSVP line.. Since there were no kids at the wedding and only people in a serious relationship were allowed to bring a guest didn't want any confusion so I typed in the names of the guests who were invited on the RSVP line for them :-) Smart I know and worked really great.

Also since I was on a budget I refused to hire a calligrapher to do it. I actually found this wonderful site with free font downloads thanks to Jacin from Lovely Little Details for posting about this site where you can get free fonts to which i downloaded and used for SO much stuff for this wedding. Free = AWESOME!

So here is my little station all set up :-)

Let's make some Invitations!

I got this pearly white ink pad at Michael's for $5

This Stamp; also from Michael's and totally worth the $10 i spent on it.

What did I do with these little lovelies you ask?

WA-La!

I also used them on the brown paper bags that held the homemade chocolate dipped rice crispy treats that were our favors :-) Best $15 I spent!

Our First Returned RSVP post card ... note the space at the bottom for the song request ;-)

I'm MURRIED!!!

That's right y'all I am officially a married woman. Mrs. Patrick Murphy :-)

And yes I know the title is spelled "murried" cause thats how I say it cause it fun :)

If I was left on earth for being sinful than thank god cause at least I got to enjoy my wedding and honeymoon! ;-) But we did also have a beer called Salvation which could have saved us as well. My brother was in charge of the brew selection and decided Salvation would be a perfect beer selection for a wedding held on the day of the supposed Reckoning. We halso had a beer called Red Barn because we have a huge barn ... It's not really red more of a pink barn lol.

So this is the story of the week before the wedding. As you know I live in Dallas and the wedding was back in Bucks County, PA so I went back a week before to help get things ready. Nothing can ever go smoothly for me I swear. I'm marrying a Murphy which has made me ultra pron to Murphy's Law "what ever can happen will happen". Oh not to mention 5 weeks before the wedding I had an accident in the kitchen and gave myself Second degree burns on my right hand fingers. Uhg it was not starting off well.

So like every bride I was checking the weather as soon as it was in the 10day focast. It was a little more important for me being as our wedding was completely outside. We did have tents for the reception but the ceremony and cocktail hour were not under tents and I strongly disliked the idea of having to get married under a tent. But i was also in the mind set that what happens happens and we will deal with it when it does and I refused to let it stress me out.

BUT the weather was forcasted rainy the ENTIRE week leading up to the wedding with rain on the wedding day as well. I kept watching it though and it mostly stayed at 50% but than 2 days before it dropped to 30% ... praise the lord! Although it POURED the entire week almost. The first day back was good and we got tons of gardening done and the next day was good but finally the rain broke at 4pm and finally were forced to stop soon after because of lightning. So the landscaping prep had officially ended that day but everything was gorgeous and I could not have asked for more.

The rain did prevent us from setting up lighting and the tent company didn't get the tents up till the day before! I was rediculous actually but I won't go into it. Not to mention our rental company we got everything else through tried to screw us with the dance floor. When we went in to finalize everything they ask us if we have sub floor for the dancefloor to go on top of.

Ummm what do you mean? Yeh they told us they would not give us the floor without a sub floor and they didnt have any for us because all theirs was rented out. They told us the sub flooring should be provied by the peole we get the tents from but how does that makes sence when you are the people we are getting our dance floor from and this is needed if it rains AND we were never told that if it rains you will need a special sub floorling to go under the dance floor so it doesnt break apart and get destroyed? No one ever told us this and being as there knew it was an outdoor wedding they should have. Basically that day was the worst day, 5 days out. Basically everything got figured out and they eneded up magically finding some for us to use.

Also we decided instead of having the tents in the back yard we would move them to the driveway. Our house isn't a typical house so what you are picturing is not what our driveway looks like. It's red gravel and has a ton of space and actually is surrounded by my favorite gardens on the property. It's like a big jungle! I actually think everything worked out for the best. I don't think the tents would have been half has beautiful if they had been in the yard and this way people weren't sinking in the mud :-)

My mom was really worried about my dress on the red gravel but I was ok getting a little dirty. I had actually bought rain boots that my photographer and I had decided would be awesome and would allow me to stromp through all the mud in the world! Glorious!

Another thing that went wrong but ended up working out was my personalized escort cards that were to be tied around mason jars. See my printer back in Texas kept eating them when I would print the names on them and I ran out of the cards with just 10 people left to do. It was horrible so I had to order more but I had to have them delived to PA because they weren't going to come in time. Well when I tried to print them on my parents printer it was no luck, it straight refused to even recognize anything being in the basket. So than my dad took them to a printer place along with the font type I was using and they could not do it either. It was so aweful lol I know it's stupid now but I was freaking out because these were my babies. They were my favorite detail of the wedding and I had worked so had to get them done only to fall short. What did I do you ask? Well my bridesmaid Heather (who happens to be the most talented painter/artist eveR) hand wrote them out matching the font pretty darn good I must say and saved my sanity.

Heather also made a sign we put at the end of the driveway. See our driveway is SUPER long and you actually cannot see the house from the road so we wanted to make sure people knew THIS was the place. She also made a second sign for the parking lot people had to park in. Yes thats right. We were originally going to have valet and have the cars parked in our neighbors side yard that lines our driveway BUT because of all the rain we could not do that. Luck for us we have a HUGE greenhouse across the street and they let us use it. So people parked and then we have a suttle to take poeple to the wedding :-) I know so great right?! I worked out so great and my brothers friend drove the big van my dad rented to be the suttle so all we did is pay for a one day car rental. SUPER cost effective if i do say so. I'd like to take credit but that was all my smart Dadda who thought that one up. I was thinking a school bus but being as the tents were taking up most of the dirveway there was no way a school bus could turn around. anywear.

I had also planned on making a rice crispy treat gooms cake. Well I forgot to order the square molds to make them so I decided well I will just make them in a thick pan and cut them and than arrange them into a grooms cake. I even got small brown paper bags (againa thanks to my Heatho for finding them) and everyone helped to stamp dandelions onto them so that guests could take them home as a favor!

Yeh that did not work out. It is WAY hard to cut them even and each one the same size so when trying to piece them into a huge tiered square cake it just wasn't working out. So than Rach, or maybe it was even my mom suggested we just put them IN the bags and have our caterer arrange them for people to take. Genius. Good to know I have all these smarties around me :-)

My MOH and brideasmaid Heather and I also decided to get an airbrush tan which was very funny because not only can you NOT get wet for 10 hours but they also dont tell you that when you wake up the next day you are a different race lol I'm serious, I am a pale irish/english gal and I woke up and I was middleeastern lol It was a hoot. After I showered though more than half came off so it ended up being perfect and I didn't look so horribly pale in Mexico either ;-)

I had also bought bubble tubes in which we planne on putting one on each chair for the ceremony so that when Patrick and I walked down the ilse as Husband and Wife everyone could blow pretty bubbles!

Tying these tiny bows was a little time consuming but way worth it I think :-)

Finalizing & Fun

I went home this past weekend to do all the finalizing of the wedding details. I got my trial wedding day make-up done as well as my hair (which were both AMAZING!), went and had lunch with my sister and mom at our caterer’s café and got to talk about cake design as well. I also picked out the linens and tables; if you remember from before my mother and I were butting heads about me wanting family style seating and her and my dad wanting round tables. Well when we finally went to the rental place and saw the tables and looked at pictures (which I have been emailing her btw) she was like “oh sweetie your right that looks so nice”. I WIN! Huge weight to be lifted I must say. Then we both agreed that my centerpiece idea was complicated and we needed to simplify which is why we are now doing simple easy hydrangeas! I have always loved them and thought about doing that in the beginning but then like many things my ideas and thoughts went overboard and complicated. I finally feel relaxed and grounded and not stressed in the least about how everything will turn out because everything has just started falling into place and it is oh so lovely! There were a few surprises while I was home. Thanks to my AMAZING MOH and bridesmaids of course; they through me a surprise bachelorette party on Friday! And yes it was really a surprise; I mean I was in shock for at least 30 mins, to the point where I was sitting on the party bus just staring at everyone lol. They told me I looked terrified and I said I was! HAHA! Honestly though I could not imagine a better bach party, even if we had gone to Vegas. This was so perfect and oh did I mention how they got me the HOTTEST STRIPER EVERRRRR! Hahahaha to all you girls who detest male strippers, I, myself am not a fan but this guy ….. Oh man was he SO sexy and super nice, like not creepy in the least. It’s funny too because I guess when my MOH was picking the guy you had 3 options: Black, White, Mystery Man … and she picked Mystery Man! Hahahaha! Such a super good time I will never forget, and yes I remember the entire night. Then on Sunday they tried to throw me a surprise Bridal Shower but I figured it ALL out and when I walked through the door I yelled “SURPRISE!” hahaha too funny. Nellie, my MOH, made home made cookies and baked brie and then my sister Amanda cooked all this amazing food like sliders and chicken with a Thai peanut curry sauce, and then they got wings from my fav wing joint. I was amazing. Oh and did I mention my MOH also made sangria … Yeh not store bought but actually made it …. Ridiculous! Everything was so great and I am so grateful to have such amazing women in my life to do this for me AND get me amazing gifts! Seriously I am the luckiest bride. You should SEE the custom garter belt (and throw away) they got me not to mention ALL the beautiful kitchen stuff and some good stuff for the honeymoon ;-)

The Suit-uation

So we FINALLY got the suits for Patrick and his groomsmen! It was touch and go there for a while and the dream of having the guys why a suit even flat lined but thanks to the Assistant Manager at the Jos. A. Banks in Highland Park, TX our dream was brought back from the dead! Now as everyone knows that if you died but were brought back you are never quite the same … something changes …. For us I believe the change was fate. I won’t reveal it quite yet but soon. Let me just tell you what happened. We have been looking for MONTHS for not just the perfect 3-piece suit, but one that is affordable. Patrick promise this would be no problem as suits are not in as high demand as they once were since most work places these days are business casual. Well we found this amazing gray (PERFECT gray might I add … that stone gray color) suit at Macy’s. The Alfani Red Slim Fit. Now it wasn’t a 3-piece, in fact it was a suit separate and I did know a vest existed because I had seen it. We Patrick kept putting it off even after he bought the suit for an interview and for the AMAZING price of $220 and this included a shirt and tie …. No vest though. BUT after the interview he went and returned everything! He said there would be another sale and not to worry. Well there were other sales but never as good so we kept waiting. Finally 2 weeks ago I went on a mission to Macy’s. I was determined to talk to a manager and see if they could cut us a deal because we would be buying 6 suits from them. As I walked into the suit department I decided to stroll by the suit just to see what sale was being offered at the moment. Low and behold, hanging on a rack to the side of the suit was a matching vest! Seriously this MUST be fate. So I grabbed the suit AND vest and walked over to the salesman and said “I am getting married in May and the groom and groomsmen are going to buy this suit BUT I have only seen one of these vest can they just order it through the store since it is not sold online either? This was my first mistake because first off I should have talked to the manager. The salesman did not seem to be the most knowledgeable guy … for a couple reasons.

1. The guy said it would be easier is the men ordered them as a 3-piece suit ….. They are suit separates which means they do not come as a package deal. I had to argue this point with him until he dragged me over to the rack and saw that the suit was in fact NOT a 3-piece suit but in fact suit SEPRATES!


2. When we tried to look up more of the vests they are only carried in California … typical. I asked if when the guys ordered their suits couldn’t the store just call California and have the vest sent to their store. The salesman said no that I would have to call every Macy’s in Cali to see which ones carried the sizes we needed and have them ship it to us. This I know not to be true because I have had Macy’s call around for me on a number of occasions. I let it go and took the list of store regardless be tired of telling this man what was what.


3. I asked if because it was for a wedding and we would be ordering so many suits at once would we get a discount. He said, “No Macy’s does not do that.” Exhausted by this man I left.

After Macy’s I talked to Patrick about the vests and the suits. The sale was just for the jacket and pants and it wasn’t very good. It would have been $220 then the vest was $75 and we would still need the shirt and tie, which would probably be another $50. We just could not ask the guys to spend $350 on a suit for a wedding … and that is before tax!

We were defeated and reluctantly unplugged our dream from life support and make the choice to rent the gray tuxes. So last weekend we went to Jos. A. Banks to register for the tuxes. I chose them instead of David’s Bridal because they had gray/silver vests that were not as metallic and shiny as DB’s were. So we sat and gave all our wedding info and the names of the groomsmen and when it came time for the vests I asked because I just had to, “You don’t happen to have the vests that matched the tux do you? I just really hate colored vests and the shiny ones so I want the vest to match as closely as possible.” The guy sat back in the chair and was like “Have you guys ever thought about buying a suit instead of renting?” Patrick and I both looked at each other and said in unison “Yes.” It was a very defeated yes lol. So I than explain to the nice gentleman our ordeal and how it just didn’t work out and would cost to much. So as much as we would love to we could not ask that of our groomsmen. The salesman looks at us and says “Listen I’m the Assistant Manager and we offer discounts all the time for bridal parties on suits, let me just show you some 3-piece suits and see what I can do.” So Patrick and I agree thinking what the hell why not.

They didn’t have any of the 3-piece suits in store but he went on line and pulled up their “Joseph” line of suits. As we looked we found that they didn’t have any true gray 3-piece suits. They had a tan gray and an olive gray but we didn’t care for either. The guy suggested another color that we agreed on (actually I jumped on the color cause I LOVED it) but you don’t get to find out quite yet what it is. All I can say is that something about the suit was a risk and we were a little nervous about how it would look in a wedding setting. Then came the tedious numbers work. We sat as he entered all 6 suits (which were $989 each), we picked a shirt ($60 each) and I found a tie that was beyond perfect ($89 each … yes I know I did not know the price when I saw).Than he started working his magic; He made the suits $199 each! The shirts he made clearance and so were knocked down to $19.99 each. THAN he took that $89 tie, he put on clearance, halved it than made it buy one get one free … each guy will pay $7.50 for that $89 tie! And the best part …. I know you are asking how much better can this get, right? Well Patrick gets his entire outfit for FREE!!! Seriously that men single handedly saved our wedding lol that’s a little dramatic I know BUT that’s how it felt. So yesterday we got the call that the suit was in so after work we went to Jos. A. Banks and Patrick got to try on the suit and see if in fact this is what we wanted.

Time for the big reveal!

So what do y'all think?! I am so thrilled with the way it looked and freaking stolked about the suits being NAVY! If you remeber back in my post "Gray is the new Black" I has said I originally really wanted navy but was shot down. Some times fate works in mysterious ways :-) Also notice the slight pin stripe ... do you guys approve?

Dear Sir...

I hate you Sir and by Sir I mean my printer ... he is a jerk and I assume he is in fact a he because of the jerkiness it is exuding could only be the jerkiness of a dude!

I have been working for HOURS on these wedding invitations and it started off great. We had far less difficulty than when we did the Save-The-Dates. I THOUGHT we were on the same page printer but apparently not. Listen I understand that it is exhausting printing out exuberant amount of stuff when you are only use to being used once in a blue moon. BUT I really need you today. I was counting on you and lets face it you need the work out. Your laziness is starting to show and I'll be honest it is not pretty ... no one likes a fat, dusty, lazy printer sir, no they do not. I would just like a reason why the nice new black ink i bought you yesterday is not good enough for my card stock. Why is it that only a mixture of your precious color ink can stick to this type of paper product? This makes me sad. Not to mention I am 90% sure I have a spare color cartridge for you but in the move, I fear, it has been lost forever. I have searched high and low and through many boxes and yet have found no trace of this elusive spare color ink cartridge. So NOW I am forced to stop and wait for Patrick to get done work so he can pick one up and I can continue.

So since my night of relaxing has be deterred by your jerkiness I am now tell you printer SIR that we are not stopping until these invitations are FINISHED!

That is all.